Cal or Aron

A few days ago I finished reading East of Eden by John Steinbeck. Holy Crap. That’s all I can say. My wife had bugged me about reading it before, and I tried for a few pages but frittered out in the prologue. I’m not sure of what else I may have been thinking of at the time, but I wasn’t able to let it seed in my mind. This time it took, and I am blown away. It might sound silly to just now be so excited about a literary classic, but for me this stuff is brand new. I was a TV kid when I was little, so I might have been watching “The A Team” when other, more accomplished and intellectual children were reading actual books. Of course, I might not recommend this one to a kid anyway. I digress. I’m not sure of how to do this without re-telling the whole story, so I’m just going to assume a knowledge of the story from here out.

When Cal and Aron enter the story I found myself identifying… you know… I’m just not in the mood. It’s an effing great book. Read it.

The Stuff Of Earth

Last Friday I ended the day smelling like sun block, sweat and dirt… with just a hint of chlorine. It was the perfect end to a busy day. It was a day spent working and playing in the sun, and it was the way things should be all the time. Modernity has forced many people, including myself, to spend most days confined to air-conditioned boxes with artificial lighting provided to dull our senses. This is not the way to be, and I have determined to reclaim the stuff of earth back into my daily life.

I know that I harp on my days and SFR a lot, but those days were pivotal in forming me as an individual. In the summer of 1992, I can remember walking up a gravel road each morning to meet the staff for prayer. The heat of the day was still a couple of hours away, and the air was always moist and cool. The sounds were soft that early in the morning… just the stillness of the air and the gravel under my feet. Over the summer I memorized the road. I could walk it in pitch black. Each tiny dip, rise and curve settled into my mind. This connection to the land is something that I miss.

This last week I had a list of things to be done before my vacation week ended. The wind had finally finished off the teetering fence on the east side of the house, and I had to get a new one built. I started by clearing the old fence away and began digging new post holes. Under most circumstances post hole digging is a unique kind of torture akin to busting rocks and digging ditches. It’s not on anyone’s list of recreational activities, but that morning I reveled in it. It is sweaty, hard work and my muscles have longed for the challenge.

After digging four post holes, and setting up two of the main posts for the fence, my wife asked me to take a break to go swimming with she and the kids at a neighbor’s house. The temperature outside was holding at around 95 degrees, so the water in the pool was perfectly cool and the smell of the chlorine reminded me of being a kid. We all played in the pool for about an hour, and then I went back to the fence to get a little more done before dark. I stopped working just before dusk. My muscles were spent, and I was hungry for dinner.

It’s a day that will stand out in my memory because it reminded me of the way that I prefer to live. I enjoy the smell and feeling of the outdoors, and I enjoy working with a saw, hammer and nails. These are the times that I feel the most freedom, and the most like myself.

Sarah and I had a vision this last week of the way that we want to live. We want to live simply. We want to have a connection to the land. Somehow over the years we have worked our way to the opposite of this vision, and we are now beginning to work our way back. If our plan ever sees the light of day, we will be living on about five or six acres somewhere northwest of Ft. Worth. We want to work and live on the land. We want our kids to experience life connected to nature. We aren’t quite sure of how the mechanics of this will work out, but that’s the vision. Simplify. That’s the direction.

Home Again

There’s something curious about being on your own for the first time in your life. It’s the dramatic launch from the nest into the world. It’s packing up your childhood room in the home where you grew up, and then moving those things to another place where you will now sleep and eat, away from your parents and all the things that you call home. It’s a pretty big deal. Yet for me it didn’t seem like a big deal at the time. Moment came and went with little notice. I made my plans without really thinking. I had found a job, and I was just going to live in a new city four hours north of my home in Bedford, Texas. No big deal.

Maybe I didn’t think that I was really leaving home for good. Maybe I figured I’d be back after a year or so. I just didn’t see the moment for what it was; the beginning of my adult life. I know that my parents thought it was a big deal. On the day I left, my Dad left a letter in my car. There was a little cash for the trip and a note. He reminded me to check the oil in my car from time to time, and told me not to forget where home was. He saw the gravity of the moment because he had done the same thing over 25 years earlier when he left his home in Marion, North Carolina.

In February of 1994 I moved to Tulsa, Oklahoma. Growing up, I knew nothing about Tulsa except that there was a TV show out of Tulsa on Sunday hosted by Oral Roberts. I knew that somewhere in Tulsa was a college campus that looked like it was straight out of Star Trek. The day I left I didn’t know that I’d spend the next 14 years there. I’d get married there. I’d buy my first home there. I’d bring my three babies home from the hospital there. I’d build my own life there.

I write all of this to try to explain the home sick feeling I’ve had for the past few weeks… after moving back to my “real” home of Bedford, Texas. At some point when you build a life somewhere different than the place you grew up the new place becomes “home.” In Tulsa I could tell you where to get the best Chinese food. I could tell you how to get anywhere in town… even the best short cuts. I could tell you where to get your Honda repaired for cheap, and where to buy guitar strings. I could tell you what the sky looks like on an October day when you’re waiting for your son to get out of school. These are all things that I am having to relearn in my home town since I moved back six months ago.

They say that it takes a year to adjust when you move to a new place. I hope that’s true because it means that I’ve only got about six more months left before I feel like I’m home again.

OK… enough blathering. It’s time to look forward, so there you go.